Demi Lovato is opening up about her sexuality in a new interview on “The Joe Rogan Experience” podcast.
The 28-year-old “Anyone” singer described herself as pansexual, explaining that she is attracted to both men and women and “anything” in between. “I’m so fluid now, and a part of the reason why I am so fluid is because I was, like, super closeted off,” she said.
“You mean sexually fluid?” asked Rogan. “You like girls? You like boys?”
It lasted 64 days. Demi Lovato and her then-boyfriend, Max Ehrich, got engaged and almost as suddenly as it happened, the two called it off. In an interview with Entertainment Weekly, Lovato explained that she had gotten engaged in an effort to “prove to the world” that she was stable after her overdose in 2018.
She explained that getting engaged “fooled” her because she thought it took her to a place that was “safe and expected.” However, reflecting on the situation, Lovato, who was speaking about her YouTube documentary, Dancing With the Devil and her upcoming album, Dancing With the Devil … the Art of Starting Over, she realized when she took off her engagement ring that it wasn’t something she needed.
Whether it’s through music or social media, Demi Lovato has long practiced transparency about her sobriety journey. Like many people recovering from substance use disorder, a very honest part of her healing includes experiencing relapses.
“I hate the binary of relapse because it suggests relapse is a failure,” says Katie Witkiewitz, Ph.D, Professor of Psychology at the University of New Mexico. “I see relapse as a learning opportunity and an expected part of the process.”
The reality is that after periods of sobriety and/or institutionalization, people still have highs and lows and may experience a relapse. Sentiments of loneliness, sadness, and numbness that they felt while using may return. Demi’s openness about her relapses is a clear example of healing being a nonlinear, uncomfortable, and sometimes ugly system — a welcome message for those recovering from substance use disorder out of the limelight.
Not holding back. Demi Lovato shared it all in her new documentary, Dancing With the Devil, set to debut on YouTube on Tuesday, March 23. The four-part special begins by showing footage of a 2018 documentary that followed the singer on her “Tell Me You Love Me” world tour. Unfortunately, due to Lovato’s overdose in July of that year, the documentary was never released.
“In that documentary, I was allowing the camera to see the tip of the iceberg,” the “Sober” singer, 28, said. “I wasn’t showing them what I was doing behind closed doors. … anytime that you suppress a part of yourself, it’s gonna, like, overflow at some point. That’s ultimately what happened to me, in a lot of areas of my life, and it was what led to my overdose, for sure.”